Texting with a new crush can be equally nerve-wracking and exciting at the same time. When you really like them but you don’t know where it’s going yet, it’s easy to overanalyse everything, and that can get overwhelming, fast. But nothing beats the butterflies you get when you see their name pop up on your screen, or how good it feels to see each other after a few days of distance. This, my friends, is the talking stage. It’s confusing, it’s fun, and if there’s one thing you need to make it through (besides an immense amount of patience), it’s conversation starters for texting.
Even though everyone’s constantly glued to their phones and in regular communication on social media these days, a lot of people aren’t necessarily great at keeping conversation IRL. That doesn’t mean they don’t like you—they might just not know where to start. Luckily, you do, thanks to the comprehensive list of questions and opening lines we compiled down below. Once you get comfortable with each other, conversation should flow naturally. But until then, use these lines as jumping-off points that can lead into convos to help you get to know each other better.
“Think about giving value and adding to their day instead of being just another notification on their phone,” says Mia Lux, co-founder and CEO of the dating app and virtual social club, La Vette.
Just remember: Texting is great, but it’s also hard to accurately assess what someone is like just from their messages. “All the key non-verbal cues (how they sound, how they move, etc.) that give us an idea of whether we feel safe with and are attracted to someone are missing,” says Lux. So even if you have great banter via text, make it a point to go on real, in-person dates to get a better sense of your connection.
Whether things are platonic, you’re on a first date, or you’re in a long-term relationship and just wanna mix things up, here are 60 conversation starters for texting that’ll take your banter from basic to productive in 100 characters or less.
Conversation Starters for Texting a Dating App Match
Describe yourself in three words.
- What was the best part of your day today?
- What’s your strangest talent?
- If you were an emoji, what emoji would you be?
- What was your first concert?
- Who’s your favourite character from a movie, TV show, or book?
- If you could have dinner with one person (living or dead), who would it be?
- What was the best vacation you ever went on?
- What’s your favourite holiday?
- What's the best book you've ever read?
- If you were an animal, what animal would you be?
- If you had to have the same meal for the rest of your life, what would it be?
- Tell me about your best friend. Where did you meet them? When?
- What's your ideal way to spend a weekend?
